SILENCE
Recently, I sat in the hurt and sadness, and actually, despair, of a long time silence.
A wise and courageous man gave some possibilities of how silence may come about for a man.
In his willingness to answer my question …
“Any tips on what may be going on for a man when he does not respond?”
… and this is what he provided:
- overwhelmed by the issue raised
- fear or concern of how his response will be received
- holding in anger
- really not wanting to face the questions
- wanting the person talking to just go away
- embarrassed
- simply lost for words
- shame
I felt compelled to add:
- control
- guilt
The spiritual element of being human promotes SILENCE as a magical component of peace and coming closer to awareness.
I have certainly experienced this joy… and continue to do so in my morning practise.
So, how can it be that there is a flip side to this human experience that can cut so deeply?
Given there is hurt, I still have work to do on myself. That’s all there is!!
Oh, is the painful silence reflective of my own silence around what is important to me? And the manner I have been going about trying to “get” my former husband to talk, leads me to giving up full of sadness, frustration and despair!!
Writing this, I hear push.
Force.
What if: I was to share the FEELINGS running through me and what NEEDS would be met through him providing communication?
And for me to remember, behind EVERYTHING people do or say, there is a GOOD REASON.
An opportunity for me to practise a new language that brings connection.
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